Love Addiction
Understanding the cycle is the first step. Healing it is the next.
You don’t have bad taste in people. You have a pattern.
Something keeps pulling you back to unavailable partners, to relationships that feel electric at first and exhausting soon after. You've probably already done some of the work: the journaling, the podcasts, maybe even therapy. And still, you find yourself here again.
Love addiction isn't about being weak or broken. It's about what your nervous system learned to do with love a long time ago, and how those early lessons are still running the show.
This is where we start to change that.
What is Love Addiction?
Love addiction doesn't have an official diagnosis, but anyone who has lived it knows exactly what it feels like. The obsessive thoughts about a partner. The terror of being left. The high of pursuit and the gutting crash of withdrawal. The relationship you know isn't good for you and somehow can't walk away from.
At its core, love addiction is an attachment wound. It's what happens when the relationships that were supposed to teach you about love were conditional, unpredictable, or only available when you made yourself smaller. Your adult relationships haven't been failures of judgment. They've been your nervous system doing exactly what it learned to do, searching for something that was never quite there to begin with.
The cycle of idealizing, attaching, losing yourself, collapsing, and starting all over again isn't a character flaw. It's a survival strategy that outlived its usefulness. And with the right support, it can change.
Imagine choosing a relationship because it’s good— not because the pull is impossible to ignore.
Imagine noticing the red flags early and actually trusting what you see. Imagine being able to sit with the discomfort of a healthy, stable connection instead of mistaking it for boredom. Imagine your sense of self not evaporating the moment someone you love seems distant.
That's not a fantasy. That's what this work is designed to help you build.
Why Work on Love Addiction in Therapy?
Break free from the stuckness that traditional weekly therapy hasn’t touched.
Process a specific trauma or life event that keeps resurfacing.
Rebuild your relationship with yourself so you’re not choosing from a place of scarcity.
Untangle the early wounds that taught you love had to be earned.
Stop abandoning yourself to keep someone else close.
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Research consistently shows that attachment-based and somatic approaches lead to lasting change in relational patterns, not just insight, but real shifts in how you respond, what you tolerate, and who you become in relationship.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Most likely, yes! In your free 15-minute consultation, you’ll discuss your current concerns, situation, and goals, and the clinician you meet with will determine whether she or another clinician (whether at Wilde or elsewhere) is a good fit to help you. Our team is equipped to deal with a wide range of concerns, but will refer you to another therapist when appropriate. We want you to receive the best support possible, whether you work with us or another clinician.
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In your first full session (not your 15-minute consultation), your therapist will ask you questions about your mental health, family history, life circumstances, and why you wanted to come into therapy. These questions are not intended to overwhelm, but for us to gain context about your current struggles and goals, helping us better understand how to support you.
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Each session is 50 minutes long. Some clients find healing in just a few sessions, while others may benefit from a longer, more in-depth therapeutic journey. Together with your therapist, you will explore what feels right for you, creating a timeline that supports your unique path toward healing and growth.
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Yes, confidentiality is very important to our team at Wilde Counseling. Any information you share will be kept between you and your therapist. That said, there are a few exceptions to this rule, which your therapist will discuss in your first session.
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At this time, we do not accept insurance directly. However, we can provide the documentation you need to submit to your insurance provider for potential reimbursement. We recommend contacting your insurance company to clarify your coverage for mental health services.
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Good question! Follow the steps below to get the information you need from your insurance company.
Call your insurance company (you can find their number on your insurance card).
Find out if you have out-of-network benefits. Ask the rep if your plan includes out-of-network benefits for mental health care (specifically for outpatient services at a mental health office).
Find out if you owe a deductible before coverage begins. Ask the rep if you have “a deductible for out-of-network mental health services, and if so, what is the remaining amount I would have to pay before my health plan starts to reimburse me for any fees I pay out-of-pocket?"
Find out how much you will be reimbursed on your plan. As the rep for the maximum amount your plan will reimburse for mental health service code 90834 with a professional counselor.
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Under the No Surprises Act, you have the right to receive a “Good Faith Estimate” explaining how much your medical care will cost.
Under the law, health care providers need to give patients who don’t have insurance or who are not using insurance an estimate of the bill for medical items and services.
You have the right to receive a Good Faith Estimate for the total expected cost of any non-emergency items or services. This includes related costs like medical tests, prescription drugs, equipment, and hospital fees.
Make sure your health care provider gives you a Good Faith Estimate in writing at least one business day before your medical service or item. You can also ask your healthcare provider, and any other provider you choose, for a Good Faith Estimate before you schedule an item or service.
If you receive a bill that is at least $400 more than your Good Faith Estimate, you can dispute the bill.
Make sure to save a copy or picture of your Good Faith Estimate.
For questions or more information about your right to a Good Faith Estimate, visit www.cms.gov/nosurprises or call 404-624-6122.
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This is therapy for deep feelers, high achievers, and women who’ve spent their lives trying to do the “right thing,” even when it cost them parts of themselves.
Our work is about helping you reconnect with yourself, feel more at home in your body, and release the old stories that never truly belonged to you.
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